Hello. Vanakkam. I’m Kani. I’m a budding teacher who is trying to educate through my blogging
Why isn’t Dark and Lovely?
“Why am I dark? Why am I not beautiful? Why did you make me like this? “Please make me fair and beautiful”, I begged and cried to God during my childhood. I was bullied because of my skin color, and the worst part is that it happened within my own family. I used to control my tears and burst them out in my prayer room right after I came back home from family gatherings. I wonder why our dark-skinned community is not accepting dark skin as readily as they accept fair skin. Why do they disgrace dark skin?
Most of my family gatherings have turned into nightmares for me. I still remember the times when Sivaji the Boss was released. When the Anggavai Sanggavai scene appeared, they would say, “Hey Kanimozhi, look, they both look like you.” They would laugh out loud, and it never ends there. Whenever dark-skinned girls appear on television, they will point at me and compare whether she is darker than me or not. The saddest part is that people accepted Shreya as beautiful but humiliated our very own dark-skinned Anggavai Sanggai.
During my secondary school days, fair girls in my circle would get love proposals. So, I thought a boy needed to compliment a girl, and that is how we define whether a girl is beautiful or not. This was what I believed during my early teens. A girl should be fair to be beautiful. In order to change my skin color, I have purchased fairness creams and applied them, but it doesn’t work as how it has been shown in the advertisements.
One day, I heard that one of my cousins’ brothers had rejected a marriage proposal because the girl was dark-skinned. I was so disturbed by the reason. I thought, “I will not get married either because of my skin color. Why was I born dark? Is this a sin or a curse? ” I cried. So fair is pretty, yet dark isn’t.
My entire perception of beauty changed when I got to know that Zozibini Tunzi, a dark-skinned model who was crowned Miss Universe 2019. I was curious that while my community thinks that dark skin is not beautiful, a dark-skinned model was crowned as Miss Universe. Then, I realised that my community does not accept dark-skinned people as beautiful, but the universe does. So, I should not change my skin color. My community should change their mentality, by the way.
I learned that beauty is my way of presenting myself. Being myself is the prettiest thing ever. During my college days, I read a lot of writeups on Instagram and realised what beauty is. No fairness creams, white foundations, or fair Snapchat filters can change my skin colour and make me beautiful. The only thing that can make me beautiful is being myself. I am happy in my own dark skin. Hereby, I’m educating people that beauty does not rely on our skin color. Both fair skin and dark skin are beautiful. People should at least get this awareness.
A big shoutout to all the dark-skinned girls out there. Love all.
8 responses to “Welcome to Kani Blogs”
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Hi dear daughter,
I had the same experience as you and it really impressed me but beauty is only in the eyes of the beholder. Moreover the beauty of color does not come to the end but our good behaviour determines who will be with us.I think because of my good character I am in this situation. At that time, beauty was nothing for me.
I m proud to say that I am black queen among my friends circle. -
To the woman who never cease to amaze me ❤️ I’m sorry that these days, weeks and months have been so unkind to you. I know it may not feel like it at times but you are magic, you are a symbol or strength and survival. I hope you know that you have always been more than enough, even when others decide to overlook you. I hope you continue to fight for all that you deserve ❤️ I know it hasn’t been easy but undoubtedly you are stronger than you’ve ever been. Love you beautiful ❤️
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Hello, my dear friend Kani. I’m so proud of you for starting a blog about people with dark skin tones. When I was in school, I also encountered the same problems. You may be aware that I use a lot of cosmetics to alter the colour of my skin because I am always being teased for having dark skin, even by my close friends. You are entirely correct that beauty is not just in the face. Good job dude .
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Above all the physical things it‘s more important to be beautiful on the inside to have a big heart and an open mind and a spectacular spleen just as you kaa!! I’m proud of you not for surviving, but for living the life that you live despite those difficult times, lots of love for you from your much loved Priya ❤️
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